Jaci Finneman is passionate about helping parents become confident leaders for their kids, find happiness in their day-to-day routine, and bring peace back into their homes. Her experience runs deep. She started her career as a para-professional for children with developmental disabilities. A few years later she was hired by a non-profit agency that supports children with physical and emotional needs. During her tenure, she became a Personal Care Attendant for a 10-year-old child diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD).
Intrigued by the diagnosis, she studied and shadowed therapeutic parents and therapists who specialized in the disorder while working full time with the family for more than a year. This experience set the foundation for Jaci’s career. Jaci is a Parent Coach, Parenting Strategist and founder of Hello World LLC. Because of her unique experience, Jaci is highly sought after to coach families affected by Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). These children are some of the toughest imaginable. Her successes with the parents and children affected by RAD inspired her to broaden her reach and apply the same techniques to coach families facing any level of resistance and behavior issues in their home.
It is with great pleasure that I introduce you to today’s real-life Wonder Woman…Jaclyn (Jaci) Finneman!
KR: Would you please tell us about what brings you joy and fulfillment?
JF: Empowering Parents to become confident leaders for their kids!
I can be completely wiped out, exhausted, or stressed to the max and think “why did I schedule an 8:00pm coaching call?” But I get on the call and the next thing I know its 9:00pm and time has flown by! When I witness a parent shift from doubt, despair, anger or worry about their struggles at home with their kids, to excitement, confidence, and a new found energy to confidently guide and lead their child with a new perspective about not only their child but themselves?!?! THAT is what feeds me, fills me up and inspires me!
And, since there are only so many hours in a day and the demand for parent coaching is high, I knew I needed to find a way to help more parents than I have the 1:1 time for. So…..in 2018, I looked back at and reviewed my 25+ years and 35,000 hours of working with hundreds of families and created a model I call No-Problem Parenting™.
We’ve all seen or experienced it: A toddler throwing a fit over their clothing choice, a young child lashing out at their siblings, or a tween responding to a request with an angry outburst. It happens. But when negative behavior becomes the norm and you’re exhausted from issuing one unsuccessful consequence after another, it’s time to change the conversation. As a Parent Strategist, I teach parents to explore the often surprising, and sometimes deep-seeded roots of behavior issues and discover why responses and discipline tactics aren’t working. Parents are key players in their child’s willingness to behave, much less survive “all things growing up,” and yet we don’t get a manual when we bring our kids home. No-Problem Parenting™ is a resource every parent can rely on to get them through the terrible twos, tweens and teen years AND BELIEVE you are the best parent ever for your kids!
KR: I believe we all have inner superpowers. What are some of yours?
JF: I have strong intuition and an ability to get to the root of problems. I’m authentic, what ya see is what ya get when you’re with me. I’m relatable and easily connect with others. I’m also SUPER Empathetic – (didn’t think of that as a super power til now! Thanks Kelly!) I’m also a smart alec, quick witted, awkwardly funny human being with a strong momma bear side that comes out sometimes (not only for my own kid but any kid I witness being picked on or judged).
KR: Can you tell us about an influential woman in your life and how she inspired you?
JF: I literally have SO many influential woman in my life!
My hero is my mom Cecilia. I always wanted to be just like her because she was so loving, accepting, generous, independent, creative, humorous and brave. I didn’t realize until after her death 16 years ago how much I relied on her even though I rarely “needed” anything from her as a young adult. Just knowing she was there and that she was proud of me was all I needed to be the confident, independent 20-30 year old that I was. After her death I slowly lost confidence in myself and started over thinking everything, I started doubting myself and literally shrinking. Then, in 2009 I met Michelle Pape in the preschool pickup line (our boys were in the same class). I remember thinking, ‘this woman is so put together and professional and friendly’ as I saw her talking with other parents in the hallway pick up line. I would say to myself, “please don’t come talk to me, please don’t come talk to me, I’m so not your caliber.” (Ironically, I was just like her before my mom passed.) Well, a few weeks in she DID come talk to me.
Loooooong story short, Michelle helped me regain the confidence and courage that I’d slowly been losing since my mom ‘s death. She acknowledged my strengths, my worth and lifted me up when I was shrinking. And, like my mom, she didn’t sugar coat her support and didn’t let me get away with the excuses I’d try to make on any given day . Our relationship started out as mom friends, then she became my business coach and now I call her my AM (adoptive mom) because her unconditional love and support reminds me of my momma!
KR: If you could have one super-human power, what would it be?
JF: To extract/erase traumatic memories from people – to free them from the emotional pain that keeps them on guard and untrusting of connection. I’d be able to put my hand out to them in a claw like position and watch the trauma leave their body like a bolt of lightening into my hand where it would evaporate.
KR: What do you do for fun? What are your hobbies?
JF: Anything dirty! LOL that sounds risqué LOL Let me rephrase that…..anything that involves dirt. I truly love dirt! Whether its riding my 4-wheeler on a super muddy or dirt road, or doing yardwork, hauling wood, or getting to the root of the dirt/messiness of a struggling family.
“Of all the paths you take in life make sure a few of them are dirt.” John Muir
KR: Knowing what you know at this stage of your life, what words of wisdom would you give to your 20-year-old self?
JF: I think the better question for me is: What would my 20 year self say to my 47 year self?
She’d say, “You’ll suffer relationship and career hardships and personal heart wrenching loss. Remember to draw from my naïve and carefree strength and determination when you need to and keep going. Always remember we need to let our intuition guide us and then follow that guidance directly and fearlessly. Love you – Your 20 year self.
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